How Music Has Transformed My Life

When people ask me what music means to me, I always find it hard to put into words — not because the answer is unclear, but because music has become so deeply woven into the fabric of my daily life. It’s more than a job, more than a hobby, and even more than a passion. It’s something that’s constantly shaping who I am, how I think, and how I interact with the world around me.
I have found that over time, as music has played an increasingly greater role in my day-to-day life, other aspects of my life have developed alongside with musicality, and I often find this to not be a mere correlation or coincidence, but a direct connection. I find that over time music has largely defined my identity and relationships; in addition, it has led me to be overall more open-minded, focused, and motivated (for my humble means haha). It has even helped me develop skills that are inherently very challenging and less natural for me such as memorization, documenting ideas/progress, time management/awareness, and even (dare I say) math!
One of the most beautiful gifts music has given me is friendship. I’ve met many of my closest friends through music — people I’ve performed with, collaborated with, or simply shared playlists and ideas with over time. In fact, for more than half my life now, the majority of my friendships have been with fellow musicians. There’s something about that shared language, the mutual passion, and the understanding of what it means to get lost in a melody or wrestle with a tricky chord progression or rhythm that bonds people in a unique and lasting way.
Teaching here at Stages Music Arts has only deepened that. I’ve realized how reciprocal the student-teacher relationship truly is. I often feel I learn just as much from my students as they (hopefully) do from me. Whether it’s a new artist they’ve turned me on to or simply the fresh perspective they bring to a song, teaching has become an ongoing journey of learning and self-discovery.
It’s especially fulfilling to work with students who are involved in theater, orchestra, or school bands. As someone who was self-taught before diving into formal training in college, I now get to live vicariously through my students’ experiences — the excitement of a school performance, the challenges of ensemble work, the thrill of discovering new music in a structured setting. It brings a sense of joy and nostalgia to my teaching that keeps things fresh and inspiring.
Music has also helped me better understand myself. I’m someone who generally tends to lean more toward the creative side of things rather than the analytical or scientific — and that’s often reflected in my playing. I can see my personality mirrored in my musical habits. For example, I’ve noticed that when playing with a metronome — which offers a clear, objective measure of timing — I almost always tend to drag rather than rush. It’s consistent, and it says a lot about my natural rhythm both musically and in life.
To compensate, I’ve found that intentionally rushing a little in my mind can help me stay on tempo. And oddly enough, I’ve applied a similar trick to my everyday habits. As a self-proclaimed procrastinator, I often have to “fake myself out” by setting earlier deadlines, pretending things are more urgent than they are. It’s funny how a technique used to stay on beat in music can become a life strategy for staying on track.
Perhaps one of the most surprising things music has done for me is build skills I once thought were beyond me — especially ones that don’t come naturally. Memorization, for instance, was always a struggle for me, but learning songs, scales, and techniques has sharpened that muscle. Keeping track of progress — through journaling, practice logs, and recordings — has improved my ability to document ideas. Music has even (reluctantly) made me a bit better at math, whether through rhythm, meter, or transposing keys. One specific example is multiplying tempos by 2 or dividing them in half (usually within a range of 60-300). This rather esoteric skill hasn’t exactly made me a calculus wizard yet but certainly comes in handy from time to time in day to day life. I am probably slightly better at multiplication and division by 2 than I was when I was in math class in school last. It’s not a full-blown conversion to a numbers person, but it’s progress!
As an instructor at Stages Music Arts, I feel incredibly fortunate to share these transformations with others — to be part of their musical journey while continuing my own. Every lesson, every student, and every piece of music offers a new opportunity to grow, reflect, and connect. Music has shaped who I am in more ways than I can count, and I’m endlessly grateful for the path it’s led me on.
If you’re just beginning your journey or are looking to deepen your relationship with music, know that it has the potential to change your life — just as it has transformed mine.
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